By Erendy Torres |Staff Writer|
Valentines Day is right around the corner and do you know what that means?
Bingo—you guessed it: first dates, roses, chocolates, teddy bears, and potential new relationships.
Ahhh, the romanticism.
Or it can be completely opposite: single, stuffing your face with chocolate ice cream, watching
reruns of “Friends,” and wiping your runny nose on your cat.
Though the second scenario sounds quite tempting, you will not spend Valentine’s Day alone.
The ratio of single men in their 20’s to single women in their 20’s is 1.2 to 1 according to the website Statistic Brain Research Institute.
You will not be part of either of those ratios.
Having a successful Valentine’s date is the goal—we need to avoid disasters at all cost.
Student Gabriela Fernandez shared an interesting first date story.
When her date picked her up from her house, he had a surprise for her.
“When he told me [he had a surprise], I got really anxious. Especially because he reached to open the backseat of the car. I thought a puppy would jump out or there would be a big flower arrangement waiting for me,” continued Fernandez.
“But no! A little boy jumped out the backseat! He had a son! That was my surprise! We spent our whole date babysitting him at Chuck E. Cheese,” added Fernandez.
Do not let this happen to you.
If you are a magnet to Valentine’s Day mishaps, have no fear.
You don’t have to take drastic measures in order to have a fun, successful Valentine’s date
, just follow these tips.
Do not talk about how miserable you are.
No one actually wants to hear how much you hate your life.
All you will do is scare your date away and you will probably never see them again. If you do, they probably only feel sorry for you.
“When you’re miserable, people feel sorry for you. Not only that, they often feel obscurely guilty, as if your misery might somehow be their fault,” stated Cloe Madanes in the article, “The 14 Habits of Highly Miserable People.”
Do not mention your ex or bring your sex-life into the conversation.
Mentioning any of these two things will make the date extremely awkward—not to mention the biggest deal breaker.
“Here’s the problem with bringing up your former flame (let’s call him Brad): if you trash Brad, it sounds like you’re not over him,” stated Lisa Lombardi in the article, “Don’t Say This On The First Date.”
“If you talk him up, it sounds like you’re not over him,” added Lombardi.
Leave. Your. Phone. Alone.
Using your phone while you are on a date is rude. Simple as that.
Twitter will still be there after dinner, but your date might not.
Maintain eye contact.
“Maintaining eye contact, might sound cliche, but it will let that person know you’re interested,” said student Eddy Gonzalez.
“Most importantly, it will make him or her smile,” added Gonzalez.
Keep the conversation going.
If there’s a pause or awkward silence, break it by asking a random question such as: “What is your favorite movie?” or “What is your favorite food?”
We hear this advice all the time, but it is true. It is easier being yourself than pretending to be someone you are not.
Have fun, let cupid work his magic, and happy dating!
But even if it doesn’t work out, what’s wrong with laying on the couch and eating Fruit Loops straight from the box?