By Geraldine Carrillo |Staff Writer|
We swipe right if the person is attractive.
Later, a conversation strikes by an instant message notification with a goal – a one night stand, or a long term relationship.
The way we communicate with others has not only changed our way of living, but also our way of loving.
Is it courtship, love or just simply sex?
Finding the right person for the right reason is what makes these dating sites and apps a bit foggy and misleading.
“I have used a couple of dating sites maybe twice or three times, I don’t go on there to find love, I honestly just go to have a good night or hook up,” said student Jose Arellano.
Although some people do think that dating apps are strictly for a “good night “or a “hook-up,” most can have a different view on things.
Courtship is something that I believe can be a result in dating apps when only using the right app.
A dating website like Match.com focuses more on the actual person and what that person is looking for in regards to a relationship.
According to Dictionary.com, courtship is a period in which a couple develops a romantic relationship, especially with a view to marriage.
“I think it depends a lot on the app you are using,” stated student Gladys Delgado.
According to a study by Catalina, Jeffery, and Nicole from Sage Journals, because users instinctively react to photographs, they are choosing dates or matches based on sexual attraction and airbrushed beauty.
Users will misrepresent themselves on his or her online profile.
“…if you’re using tinder then you’re looking for a one night stand because of the pictures, but if your using something like Match.com then your looking for something more serious based on the persons profile,” continued Delgado.
Not only are dating apps creating a different way on how people view relationships or courtship, dating apps are also changing the way in which people view sex.
Sex has become more casual than ever.
It is apps like Tinder, OkCupid, and Grinder that make it easier, allowing people to scroll and view potential one night stands around the user in a matter of seconds.
Where as years back before these dating apps existed, people would get in touch by other forms of communication at a slower rate making it a lot tougher for sex to become “casual.”
“I met a girl on Tinder once, and yeah it (sex) was pretty casual. We knew we didn’t want anything out of it because I mean, if she really wanted to get to know me she wouldn’t have been on that app in the first place,” stated student Bryan Guzman.
I believe this (the apps) distinguishes between a “one-night-stand” app and a “serious-relationship” app.
So what is the outcome of these dating apps?
“Only one-third of people who have used online dating have never actually gone on a date with someone they met on these sites, and only 5% of Americans who are in a marriage or committed relationship say they met their significant other online,” according to the Pew Research Center.
Whether we are looking for singles to have fun or marry, it is important to understand that dating apps can be misconstrued by users resulting in deception for long term relationships.