Dear Julia, Whenever I ask my friend about any trouble that may be going on in her life she feels the need to be dishonest with me. What can I do to confront her about it? Should I even attempt it? Signed Concerned Friend Dear Concerned Friend, These can be tricky situations. You obviously care about your friend and her well being, but sometimes being asked “what’s wrong,” can add to what is actually wrong. The best thing to do is to convey to her how much she means to you, and that if she EVER needs to talk that she can come to you. This will be more comforting than anything else. Be patient with her, and try getting her mind off of things by having fun. Things will get … [Read more...] about Learn from my mistakes (Week 4)
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Learn From My Mistakes
By Julia Matulionis |Opinions Editor| I started talking to this guy that is considered a "player," how can I make it clear to him that I want him to date only me without sounding demanding or clingy?-The Good Girl Dear Good Girl, One of the tricks to relationships is maintaining your power and setting up boundaries quickly. The best way to maintain your power is to act like you have it already. Don't text first, don't call him, and most of all make sure he knows your the one being chased. Here's one simple rule I follow: If he calls and asks for a "same-day" date you say you're busy even if you're really not. Do something for yourself that night like mani/pedi or a movie … [Read more...] about Learn From My Mistakes
Learn from my mistakes: An advice column
By Julia Matulionis |Opinions Editor| "I work at a local food joint and really want to quit but the managers are super nice and I need the money for rent. What should I do? Signed, Employee of the Month." Dear Employee of the Month, This is a common problem for employed students, but it really is a blessing in disguise. It's a perfect opportunity for you to look around for something better! When looking for jobs its important to be confident and remember that they're not only interviewing you, you're interviewing them! Already being employed allows you the luxury of turning down jobs and waiting for that perfect fit. Plus, it sounds like your manager would give you a … [Read more...] about Learn from my mistakes: An advice column