By Yezi Cho |Staff Writer|
Regardless of age, race and gender, one of the hottest topics that gets peoples’ attention is the female orgasm and sexuality.
Marshall Miller and Rachel Dart came all the way from New York to the Santos Manuel Student Union on Feb. 29 to hold “I Love Female Orgasm,” an event to provide women and their partners good and accurate information about sexuality.
“Learning and talking about sex is a good thing, it is empowering and healthy to be knowledgeable about one’s own body and how it works,” said Miller.
Miller and Dart discussed the female orgasm, benefits of, women’s bodies and women’s sexual health.
Students talked about the length of an orgasm, explained the difference between experiencing an orgasm or not, whether it does exist or not and different kinds of assimilation and stimulations for an orgasm.
They informed with facts that put myths to rest of what is true or false. “All of these could be right or wrong and it all depends on the individuals,” said Dart.
Dart explained that the range of time depends on a person because some orgasms last three minutes while others last only 10 seconds. “According to a research, some women have not had orgasms yet. However, those women are the youngest in the survey and are between 18 and their early 20s. Only a few women are not able to orgasm, but it is rare,” added Dart.
Some students said it doesn’t exist, but Dart said that is not true. Compared to men, women’s orgasms seem to be more elusive, so it’s easy to understand why some people think that way.
There are different ways to stimulate an orgasm, but Dart said the physiology happening inside of the body is basically same for everyone.
“Some women can have orgasms with no stimulation just by thinking about sexual things, also called ‘thinking-off’’,” explained Dart.
The “I Love Female Orgasm” event was aimed towards women, but Marshall and Dart wanted to hear men’s perspectives so they encouraged men to get involved.
Dart wanted to listen to the females’ perspective, so during the event, men left the room with Miller so women could have some alone time to talk about themselves with Dart. They talked about what is helpful physically, psychologically and emotionally by having an orgasm and also shared their first orgasm stories.
They made a list of what having an orgasm leads to: fantasy, feeling comfortable with their partner and own body, time and communication, just to name a few.
According to Dart, time is a key to having an orgasm and normally it takes 20 to 30 minutes with direct stimulation.
Moreover, she said communication is one of the most important causes of having an orgasm because communication with one’s partner leads to a better orgasm.
Once Miller and the men came back to the room, they joined the discussion and shared their perspectives as well as learned some new ways to make their partners happy.
“I felt more comfortable about female orgasm by attending this event. I learned how to treat women and what should I do,” said Anthonio Alcantar.
Miller and Dart said we have the right to know what an orgasm is and how to achieve one.
“Orgasm is a pleasure, which is such a fun thing,” said Miller.