By Brenda Servin |Staff Writer|
Every 13 seconds there is one divorce in America according to the McKinley Irvine Family Law Firm.
41 percent of first marriages end in divorce while the average age for couples going through their first divorce is 30-years-old.
CSUSB student Evelyn Romero said, “That is a high percentage of couples ending in divorce. I think people should attend counseling or do everything in their power to avoid divorce.”
On average, people wait three years after a divorce to remarry if they remarry at all.
Sixty percent of second marriages end in divorce.
In addition 73 percent of third marriages end in divorce.
The risk of divorce decreases by 13 percent if you have attended college.
About 50 percent of all the children in America will witness the breakup of their parent’s marriage but the risk of divorce decreases by 14 percent for children who have happily married parents.
“Divorce can be good. There are many couples who stay together cause they have kids not because they love each other,” said
student Jessica Mejia.
According to the McKinley Irvine Family Law Firm people who are over the age of 25 when they marry are 24 percent less likely to get divorced.
Living together before marriage increases the chance of divorce by as much as 40 percent.
On average the length of a marriage lasts eight years before ending in divorce.
The divorce percentage has increased over the years.
According to The Huffington Post 10.6 percent of the population was divorced in 2008.
According to MSN the eight most common reasons for divorce include: Lack of commitment, too much arguing, infidelity, marrying too young, unrealistic expectations, lack of equality, lack of preparation and abuse.
In a lecture given by Penny Drake-Green’s Interpersonal Communication class, research done by John Gottman along with coauthors Julie Schwartz and Joan DeClaire at the University of Washington explains that some people play the “marriage master” role.
Marriage masters use communication patterns that help prevent divorce such as accepting their partner’s emotional bids,expressing appreciation, repairing conversations, accepting influence and establishing rituals for connection.
They are able to tell their partner what they want, rather than what they don’t want.
Marriage masters present complaints in a gentle, noncritical way, listen for statements of need and respond with open-ended questions.
Communication is important in relationships.
Withdrawal, negative communication, abusive communication, lack of openness and/or intimacy are all communication patterns related to breakups.
The end of a relationship can lead to negative or positive outcomes.
Negative outcomes of relationship breakups may include negative emotions, loneliness, financial consequences, effects on children and even health consequences.
Positive outcomes of relationship breakups may include personal, relational, environmental and future positives.
“Divorce affects everyone’s family differently. My younger brother got sad about it and my older brother started hanging out with the bad crowd,” said
The cost for filing divorce in California is about $400 according to the Superior Court of California Statewide Civil Fee Schedule.
People should take into consideration the process and cost of divorce before filing.