Rachel Rundengan |Staff Writer|
Is it just me, or is my generation (generation Y) extremely pessimistic about dating and relationships?
As I examine the trends and humor in social media such as Instagram, Vine, and Twitter, I began to realize that if not all, most are associated with courtship and romance.
Whether it would be about a man being too desperate, or a woman being overly jealous, they all have one thing in common – and that is cynicism.
The irony of all this is the creation of a new trend that stemmed from the bitterness of generation Y, the “relationship goals.”
The general idea of “relationship goals” is everything that a person finds perfect in a relationship—of course perfection may vary among people.
I am not an expert in relationships nor am I a specialist in dating, but I do know this; if you want something real,
first you have to be real with yourself.
And the first step to that is the willingness to commit.
I understand that commitments are terrifying, but so is abandoning something that could have been beautiful.
The image of dating and relationships that social media has portrayed, has forced many people to speak and act in a particular way that has made it difficult to achieve the fruition of authenticity.
For example, when you are getting acquainted with someone of your interest, do not pretend to be someone you are not.
Do not allow the standards of what you have learned from social media dictate your actions.
Do not allow other people’s idea of what is perfect to them, control your judgment.
Because the reality is this—sooner or later, the truth will remind you just how much easier it would have been to tell it from the start.
Being in a (romantic) relationship is not easy.
It requires two people to work together regardless of undesired differences.
So before you call it quits after a couple of heavy arguments, remember that a healthy relationship stands firmly on overcame challenges.
The one thing I have learned from my relationship is that sometimes it’s ok to feel and be vulnerable.
And I think that is the fear of most people today; being completely powerless and appearing weak.
Nobody enjoys the feeling, but being vulnerable to the person you are in a relationship with does not always mean it is a bad thing—it just means you are committing yourself in something that shuns ego.
So again I say, relationships are not easy.
It begins with awkward-fun dates, to many random obstacles that would lead to making the relationship exclusive, to finally arriving at a love you admire on “relationship goals.”
To all the ladies and fellas out there who cannot seem to keep up with the dating and relationships standards created on social media, forget them.
Do not allow “relationship goals” to influence your impression and ideas of what is perfect for yourself; because if you truly seek to have something real, you first have to be real with yourself.