By Essence Dennis |Staff Writer|
Abuse is abuse — and that’s what “Fifty Shades of Grey” enforced.
“Fifty Shades of Grey” is a story about an abusive man who wanted control over a college senior, using sex and a contract.
BDSM is known as an overlapping abbreviation of bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism, according to urbandictionary.com.
The public only reads and experiences what the author portrays in “Fifty Shades of Grey.” However, the author has portrayed a false sense of consent in the book, as well as the movie.
“She didn’t even know what a butt plug was, most people do – and if they don’t, they wouldn’t be involved with a man like him,” commented Emily Sarah, a performer, fetish model, and owner of “BDSM Healing.”
In most BDSM relationships, most people who engage in any of the sexual acts at least know what tools are involved.
“I don’t think he’d be interested in a woman like her. She’s clearly not up for BDSM, and he could find someone else to do it. That makes their relationship abusive,” said Sarah.
In my opinion, it seems as though BDSM holds a bitter taste in many people’s mouths when thought about.
Most people go straight to something like hardcore porn, believing that the act itself is all that BDSM is composed of.
There is consent within BDSM relationships, which “Fifty Shades of Grey” simply does not discuss.
This makes the book and movie more of a fantasy. The downside, youth will view this kind of movie and gain a false sense of what sex and sexuality are, which may push them into abusive relationships.
“It’s scary for kids to have to see it. It messes kids up and gives them a false sense of what sex is actually like,” said student Joseph Youngblood.
The media, in my opinion, already misconstrues what sexuality is and how people express it, which ultimately demonizes what’s acceptable and what’s not. When in reality, a study was performed in 2005 by Durex called the “Global Sex Survey” that stated about “20 percent of sexually active people engage in ‘kinky play’ with their sex partners,” according to divinecaroline.com.
“Most people outwardly think it (BDSM) is not suitable for most Americans, but in reality most people do it without knowing,” said student Celeste Youngblood.
Celeste mentioned what seemingly a lot of couples engage in can deal with anything, such as slight choking, tying hands on bed posts, or to a heterosexual couple having the woman be the dominant individual during intercourse.
“Psychologically, certain guys could watch it and think, ‘All right, this is how we play it now? This is what I need to do’,” said Ronald Elliston in an interview for The Guardian. Elliston has been a part of the fetish scene since 1983.
“Christian (the main character in “Fifty Shades of Grey”) is manipulative, controlling, and has all the characteristics of a psychopath. At the end, he proved his point by beating her up, then being charming again,” said Jon Blue to The Guardian.
“Fifty Shades of Grey” misrepresents BDSM, and further perpetuates abuse.
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