By Tommy McCardle |Staff Writer|
Many people have a theory that their past experiences and interactions with others takes a part in shaping their personality traits in the future.
There is an old saying, “history is bound to repeat itself if one does not learn from it.”
Syd Moore, author of “The Drowning Pool,” offers advice to those that question their past’s influence on who they become in the future.
“Disregard for the past will never do us any good as without it we cannot know truly who we are,” said Moore.
One’s past not only affects themselves, but it is believed to have an adverse effect on others around them.
“I am a child of divorce, so that really screwed me up,” said KNX 1070 Newsradio AM Production Coordinator Sergio Alexander.
Alexander expressed that he feels he has trust issues that affect his relationship with his parents.
“I’m closer to my friends than any of my family members,” said Alexander.
He mentioned being bullied as a kid while in school for being overweight, which caused him to have low self-esteem.
As an adult, Alexander has become more active in life because of being bullied, helping improve his self-esteem.
Orlando Orogo, an international student, states that he was mistreated on a basketball team in high school due to being short and scrawny.
“I gave up sports and it lead me to playing drums, and eventually picking up the guitar,” said Orogo.
Orogo believes the jump to music taught him to be patient and respectful toward other people.
It was a band-mate of Orogo’s that made him become confident in himself.
How a person raises their own family can stem from personal experiences as a child.
Aurielle Webb, a licensed vocational nurse, grew up under the guidance of a single mother.
“Growing up, my mom was a single mom, she showed me how to work hard and take care of myself,” said Webb.
Not knowing her father has influenced how Webb and her husband behave for their children.
“My husband and I want our kids to see us in a strong healthy marriage,” said Webb.
Marcus Garvey, founder of the Universal Negro Improvement Association and African Communities League (UNIA-ACL), once said, “A person without the knowledge of their past, history, origin, and culture is like a tree without roots.”
Just like roots are important for plants, history can be seen just as important for people to absorb information and learn lessons.
To better understand a person and how they behave in adulthood, dive into their past for situations that directly relate to their personality and behavior.